I read a blog entry on success, and it got me thinking about comparisons. We compare ourselves to others as a means of measuring success. Sounds like a good idea right? Not so much, perhaps! If you think about it, you’re quantifying your journey to someone else’s, and that’s such a flawed approach to life, not to mention mind-numbing.
Trust me, just looking at social media wears me down after I think about my life vs theirs. It isn’t as glamorous or thriving by any stretch of the imagination. However, I believe there is some value to comparison, only not in the way you may imagine.
Comparing yourself to you
Rather than measuring your success to another person’s, how about measuring it against you? The you 3, 6 or 9 years ago, depending on how old you are, and see how far you have come along your journey.
You’re essentially saying that either you or them, don’t measure up when you compare yourself. The outcome of this isn’t healthy nor will it boost your self-confidence. You don’t need to look down on others to feel confident about yourself!
On the other hand, self-comparison allows you to see where you might have grown, what other parts of yourself need attention and what actions you need to take. In addition, it provides you with the chance to fete what you’ve accomplished.
19-year-olds are making millions in the world of today, props to them, it can be demoralizing if you’re in the same peer group and aren’t experiencing much success yourself. The reality is, we’re all successful in our own different ways. We all have something amazing and unique to offer to the world and to ourselves. We should always remember that! So whenever you feel discouraged, think of where you stood a few years back and point out the many achievements you’ve made leading up to today. My gut feeling tells me you’ll be mind blown to realise just how amazing you are.
Do you often compare yourself to others? Let me know in the comments section.
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